The Vision Retreat helps couples establish a clear vision for their marriage. Jimmy Evans will guide you through setting goals for your family, children, household and health.
This phase will help you and your spouse emotionally, spiritually, and physically prepare for your retreat together.
Jimmy and his wife Karen have encouraged and coached countless couples in building rewarding marriages and healthy homes. They know firsthand that no marriage is hopeless. Today, after 40 years together, they understand that no matter how bleak a marriage may appear, every couple has a 100% chance of success in marriage. In fact, it can thrive!
You’ve likely seen a vision statement at your job or even your church. Vision keeps the entire team united and working towards one singular goal. What happens in marriage is that we don’t have a clear vision. Each spouse is trying to achieve something different and both spouses get frustrated and invariably lose hope for the relationship. That is why a vision retreat is essential for every couple.
A vision retreat is a time when you go away together and patiently and proactively discuss important areas of your relationship. Through this process, you’ll find that you come into agreement. When your retreat is over, you’ll be on the same page with communication, money, schedules and children. You’ll become a united team because you and your spouse have a clearer picture of the year ahead.
Ideally your vision retreat will focus on five areas: planning, communication, fun, relaxation and intimacy. As a general suggestion, you should spend about half the time going through the Vision Retreat Journey and the other half doing things you both enjoy. The goal of the retreat is that you have fun and make positive memories together. Our hope is that by the time you leave, you are refreshed and more passionate than ever.
We recommend you get away from home with no distractions so you don’t have to worry about household chores and responsibilities. When you are at home, there will still be the pressure of preparing meals and doing chores. Getting away will result in a much more rewarding experience for both of you.
The quality of your retreat is not dependent on the cost. It’s about spending time together. What's important is that you escape from your normal routine and day-to-day responsibilities. On your getaway, you will focus your attention on seeking God and each other.
Your retreat should be three-to-five days if you want to have the best experience. A general recommendation is to spend the first half of the day going through the Vision Retreat Journey, talking and discussing your relationship. Then spend the second half of the day having fun together.
It’s a good idea to plan a vision retreat each year because the circumstance and events in your relationship will continually be changing. You’ll find that you look forward to your vision retreat each year and that anticipation will bring you closer together.
You shouldn’t take your children on a vision retreat. A vision retreat is about the two of you renewing the passion and intimacy in your relationship.
On your getaway, you’ll have an opportunity to write a unique vision statement for your children. When you get home, you can give each child their specific vision statement. You’ll find that this gives them focus and motivation for the year to come.
Customize your vision retreat location for what works best for you and your spouse. You can go almost anywhere as long as you’re communicating together without a lot of distractions.
It’s normal to sometimes have tension on your vision retreat. Jimmy will carefully guide you through any areas of frustration that you may experience. You may need to spend extended time discussing a particular area of conflict and that’s ok. Jimmy will give you new tools in order to help you work through any areas where you may disagree. In many circumstances, when you talk about the real reasons you are fighting, you’ll discover that you can reach a compromise or a new level of understanding with each other.
Remember, even if you go on your vision retreat and a particular discussion causes you to fight, keep on talking and praying together. Once you resolve the issue, you can be happier than ever. When you commit to the process of having the same vision, you’ll find that you rarely disagree over the same issue again. The key to resolving a disagreement is working through this process. Growth and intimacy happen naturally when we resolve conflict together.
We have a helpful retreat checklist that is printable on-line at VisionRetreatJourney.com. Login to your account in our “Resources” section to access. Please note this is not intended to be a comprehensive checklist, but it may give you some ideas that you haven’t considered.
If you find that you don’t have time to complete your vision retreat that is ok, especially if this is the first time you’ve gone through this resource. It would be a good idea if you and your spouse spend a little bit of time regularly working on the remaining phases in the days after your retreat in order to complete the process. If needed, set aside an afternoon or weekend without distractions to conclude your vision retreat.
You can log in and access VisionRetreatJourney.com for a full year (from the time of your sign up). Feel free to visit often and review your vision statement and the other on-line resources we offer for up to 365 days. At the end of the year, you’ll have the option to renew your on-line account if you choose to do so.
If you have a question that we haven’t answered, please fill out a support ticket at VisionRetreatJourney.com and a member of our team will be happy to assist you in any way possible.